tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post5872576102571815661..comments2024-01-21T20:42:29.223-06:00Comments on The Extraordinary Ordinary: Dancing with an arrowHeather of the EOhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14607422301391841377noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-23632428198859695912010-01-30T16:39:10.998-06:002010-01-30T16:39:10.998-06:00Arrow, shmarrow:
simply transient hallucinations...Arrow, shmarrow: <br />simply transient hallucinations we dream up in moments/stages of insecurity. The arrows are fiction. God knows the true story, the true dancer, accepts us, lifts us, and gives us permission to rest from all the dancing.<br />You'll see. :)Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11486223394459963669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-59506269255146262962010-01-27T15:01:14.913-06:002010-01-27T15:01:14.913-06:00Your humanity defines you, not arrows! Your charac...Your humanity defines you, not arrows! Your character will be resolute and you will have the endurance to accomplish what you wish. My thoughts and prayers are with you Heather!Alitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09470698206904719203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-11282280278381895612010-01-27T09:27:38.169-06:002010-01-27T09:27:38.169-06:00Labels ... ugh, hate them! After severe injuries a...Labels ... ugh, hate them! After severe injuries almost caused me to die, I didn't want the label - "woman that almost died" so I hardly talked about my accident/injuries/struggles. That didn't work real well - led to depression.<br /><br />Finally, I've learned to live in the tension of "woman that almost died" and "Janet - the whole person that I am" Almost dying is a part of my life, I can't deny that, but I don't want my life defined by it.<br /><br />And for the people that see me only as that label ... as a wise woman said, "Who gives a sh*t about them?!"Janet Oberholtzerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10172668433266809905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-70184886177807775152010-01-26T12:24:08.217-06:002010-01-26T12:24:08.217-06:00You are so brave. The arrow really points to "...You are so brave. The arrow really points to "Brave," and those who don't get that you can ignore completely. <br /><br />xoxoAmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14258405168792203613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-46009204694528470262010-01-26T09:16:58.308-06:002010-01-26T09:16:58.308-06:00Just wanted to pop in to say I think about you eve...Just wanted to pop in to say I think about you every evening at 5 and say a quiet good thought to you.<br /><br />I'm so proud of you and think you are amazing. and clearly, I'm not the only one.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13478272444205279342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-73505037242570750252010-01-25T22:24:17.350-06:002010-01-25T22:24:17.350-06:00You will always be the amazing Heather that I love...You will always be the amazing Heather that I love. <br /><br />It doesn't have to define you, just refine you. <br /><br />You are amazing and you have decided to make that journey through the refiners fire-- and we are all here to catch you. <br /><br />xoxoxElisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17255980370281345632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-57069420198295582652010-01-25T21:14:47.929-06:002010-01-25T21:14:47.929-06:00The only labels I have for you are "awesome w...The only labels I have for you are "awesome writer" and "wonderful person." xoxoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01044279582701415786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-64577039811126695432010-01-25T16:24:38.866-06:002010-01-25T16:24:38.866-06:00Heather,
I am always amazed at the beautiful way ...Heather, <br />I am always amazed at the beautiful way you speak of your family-especially your awesome boys. Keep doing your best every day even when you feel like giving up.Laurienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-18748859291845070862010-01-25T14:48:00.895-06:002010-01-25T14:48:00.895-06:00I just see you as Heather... and I love you.I just see you as Heather... and I love you.Sabrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02121871412387502050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-74021512190980212442010-01-25T12:42:40.800-06:002010-01-25T12:42:40.800-06:00I think we all feel the arrows, and then once in a...I think we all feel the arrows, and then once in a while someone figures out they are there, or we actually allow one to be seen and then they just get so heavy. I actually conciously work to ignore the arrows around me, but I hope for you that you don't need others to ignore them, but that you come to a peace where it simply no longer matters. <br />Love to you friend, <br />SJSara Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15687971499275694822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-76483920059757257142010-01-25T11:24:15.487-06:002010-01-25T11:24:15.487-06:00I get you. I really do. And I see you as more than...I get you. I really do. And I see you as more than a one-arrow kind-of girl. You are so much more. So much more.<br /><br />The message is 60-some strong in this comment box: We see you. <br /><br />You know, I struggle horribly with this whole approval-of-others thing, and fight hard to live for an Audience of One. It's a ferocious inner battle. <br /><br />So this verse has become a mantra for my dancin', <br />people-pleasin', <br />approval-seekin'<br />self.<br /><br />"Am I now trying to win the approval of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a servant of Christ." Gal 1:10. <br /><br />Press on.Jennifer @ JenniferDukesLee.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15934656581948719407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-43644867829060776502010-01-25T10:17:41.176-06:002010-01-25T10:17:41.176-06:00I thought about you all weekend...thought about ho...I thought about you all weekend...thought about how terrified I'd be if I had posted your last post, of how I'd go through the stages of regret, sadness, anger & finally acceptance. Because I, personally, have a fair amount of fear of labels, too. We both need to learn to stop caring so much about what other people think, eh? Because, truly, I never judge another person as harshly as I do myself. All the things I always think everyone else must be thinking are things I would never actually think about anyone else. Comfort yourself with that. Nobody here would think the harsh things about you that you keep thinking of yourself. <br /><br />I love you, whatever your struggle. And I've learned much from you. Thank you for being you!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06924784279928092348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-42250363529896489132010-01-25T09:13:03.337-06:002010-01-25T09:13:03.337-06:00I didn't read anyone else's comments, but ...I didn't read anyone else's comments, but I just want to say: to me (and lots more, I bet) you are Heather the Writer. Heather the Mama. Heather the Ponderer. Heather the friend.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15239442909091675067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-75165976686915987532010-01-25T08:06:20.898-06:002010-01-25T08:06:20.898-06:00Oh, friend. We all have our labels, and sometimes...Oh, friend. We all have our labels, and sometimes we're labeled unfairly or we label others unfairly. Ever since you emailed, I haven't been able to stop thinking about Heather, just Heather... most of the time, it's not about Heather and alcohol, it's about Heather's heart. That's the arrow I see over you... well, lots of them, really... they read courage, grace, beauty, love and authenticity. I see you no other way.Angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12541881133243012900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-4152411016953510592010-01-24T20:28:09.776-06:002010-01-24T20:28:09.776-06:00Oh Heather --labels labels schmables.
hate them
T...Oh Heather --labels labels schmables. <br />hate them<br />There isn't a bill board out there BIG enough for all my labels<br />"divorcee" for starters<br />groan<br /><br />hurtful, love yawendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13619293936418976914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-40932039832593357402010-01-24T19:37:36.282-06:002010-01-24T19:37:36.282-06:00Lee is SO right. don't dance for me but with ...Lee is SO right. don't dance for me but with me. Take things one day at a time and you will find your way. HUGSAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09569843147080971050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-18987892481142613432010-01-24T19:21:58.954-06:002010-01-24T19:21:58.954-06:00I think that, arrow ridden or not, the people who ...I think that, arrow ridden or not, the people who end up mattering most in our lives are the ones who never see just the arrows. The ones who love the entirety of who we are.<br /><br />In my mind, the only arrow pointing at your head is the one that says "Friend."Kimberly Vanderhorsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653757517652257445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-90739576048009244432010-01-24T18:43:34.158-06:002010-01-24T18:43:34.158-06:00Oh, that picture/arrow made me laugh...well, can&#...Oh, that picture/arrow made me laugh...well, can't say I wasn't a bit surprised by your last post. You're just awesome though, alcoholic or not!S'dizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15149637367416712938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-30218438134778400692010-01-24T17:48:05.950-06:002010-01-24T17:48:05.950-06:00I just cannot stop thinking about you. This story ...I just cannot stop thinking about you. This story about a dancing daughter and her drinking dad is beyond poignant. And look at you, recognizing a pattern, making a change that will likely influence your children...for whole generations.<br /><br />You're still at the top of my prayer list.<br /><br />Love you --charrettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11703356045366140496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-69800824563626182132010-01-24T16:21:04.679-06:002010-01-24T16:21:04.679-06:00So many thoughts come to mind. You are so loved fo...So many thoughts come to mind. You are so loved for one. Count me in. Also the fact that I created an entirely different blog just to address a certain label...hmm. The fact that I second guess that decision as well as any other decision I make. <br /><br />I savor your clarity of thought and openness. <br /><br />xoxoMama-Facehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17580875108645568975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-49676712250076712352010-01-24T14:41:15.339-06:002010-01-24T14:41:15.339-06:00i just found you, just four minutes ago, and read ...i just found you, just four minutes ago, and read this post. i will copy and save it for myself. i have a label, an arrow i can't seem to shake and appreciate this post so much.<br /><br />i'm a new follower.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-76171618821339683532010-01-24T13:39:53.716-06:002010-01-24T13:39:53.716-06:00is it sad that i missed the arrow and went straigh...is it sad that i missed the arrow and went straight to the apron and thought "omg i have pot holders that match - we are sooo bff"?<br /><br />thought so. <br /><br />this is why i should keep my comments to myself huh? <br /><br />but for real i heart you. arrows and all. xoxoamandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11616598232613837025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-83884607456683398092010-01-24T13:25:10.576-06:002010-01-24T13:25:10.576-06:00I too always worry about what other people think o...I too always worry about what other people think of me when they see me. What label they have placed upon me. But yes I think you/we need to stop worrying about what other people think. And for the record, when I look at your picture, this person whom I've never met yet with whom I've connected on such a deep level, I think: writer, human, brave, strong.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02709860733922696793noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-77376436456923265132010-01-24T10:27:36.015-06:002010-01-24T10:27:36.015-06:00Heather
I have struggled with worrying about what...Heather<br /><br />I have struggled with worrying about what other people think for so long. And by the grace of getting to know God better, I finally learned that 1)no matter what we do or say we can never, ever have such an impact on other people's thoughts to make them see us as we want them to and 2) the only thing that matters is how God sees you. Our Lord knows who you are and trust me, there are no red arrows. No. red. arrows. <br /><br />God Bless you on this journey, you very brave and very smart girl. You are Heather and you know it and God knows it. And that, my friend, is all that matters. <br /><br />Lord, please stay close to Heather during this journey. Please help her find strength to get through the difficult times and please bring her peace. Amen.<br /><br />- Jen P. in Palatine, ILJennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-462728671028708590.post-5756758858567537512010-01-24T06:32:25.025-06:002010-01-24T06:32:25.025-06:00Heather, I am a relatively new follower, so I have...Heather, I am a relatively new follower, so I haven't come to know you very well. But still, I never think of you as "Heather, the alcoholic". I think of you as "Heather, the beautiful writer", "Heather, the blogger I am intrigued to know better", "Heather, the one whose sincere and thought-provoking posts I always enjoy reading". And after today, there is one more label added to the list: "Heather, the brave one".<br /><br />Thanks for sharing yourself.Graceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09135892970660205062noreply@blogger.com