Torturing Asher

Do you have that piece of paper handy? The one with the long list of things that, according to the doctor, might be wrong with Asher? I mean, it's been quite a year. There was concern that he was missing part of his digestive system (xrays at Children's=no abnormalities). There was concern that he had the worst case of reflux ever to hit a baby (he drinks barium at 2 months, at Children's, has another xray=we find out he indeed has reflux, but just the usual variety). And then there was the concern that there was a hole in the digestive system (more xrays). And then we saw a GI specialist, etc.... Oh! And don't forget all that went wrong with the circumsicion and the the urology appointments. Don't forget that, that's fun too...

Asher is strapped in to some sort of hold-the-baby-upright-device with his arms over his head for these xrays. He stares at me and screams with terror in his eyes and I want to curl up in a corner and point at the xray tech., making sure he sees that it's HER, not ME!!!

Today? Well, today. We had Asher's one-year-visit. I was all pleased as punch on the way there, thinking of how I FINALLY don't have to bring up any concerns. I mean, he's even been pooping the last couple of days. I was so excited to tell the doctor. I never knew I could get so excited about someone's bowels, but it's been a long road. So I told her and she was pleased as punch too. Then she did his physical and became concerned about his hips being abnormal. And they are, I too saw that one is higher than the other. But another xray? I guess. To rule out the possibility that one hip is out of joint. Off to xray we went... nothing wrong.

THEN. THE BIG HEAD. CONCERN ABOUT THE BIG HEAD.

Body = 40th percentile Head=99th percentile

Doctor suggests cat-scan of huge head.

What da heck is a mom to do? I mean, if your doctor recommends something do you flatly say, "No, that's silly, lady you don't have a clue." I tried the, it-runs-in-the-family approach, but she still doesn't feel confident that there is absolutely no chance that something else isn't wrong.

She did say his head has continued growing at the same rate at each appointment, which is normal, and she also mentioned it's perfect shape (I know, I know, I worked hard on that).

This is my question (GET TO THE POINT ALREADY, RIGHT?) :
Yes, there's a minuscule chance there's a cyst or fluid or something. But very likely, Asher is just simply a genius with a really big brain, which makes his head large...
That being said, as a parent, HOW do you NOT do the cat scan (a fifteen minute procedure where he is sedated mind you)? Because if by some small horrifying chance something is wrong, and we opt out and find out later....

(Let me also throw in- for good measure -that our insurance will only cover part of this test and we haven't won the lottery lately).

Not that you can decide this for me, but what's your input? What would you do?

Someday when Asher has an appointment with no concerns whatsoever, I will throw a little victory party. We will have cake. It will be on that very day that he speaks his first sentence and he'll say, "geez ma, I'm so glad you didn't torture me with any body stretching contraptions today, thanks a bunch!"