if you set aside your self-righteousness for a bit.
I said that (or rather, I typed it) on Twitter the other day. Usually I tweet riveting stuff like I want tacos, so it felt a little strange to randomly say such a thing. I wasn't trying to be profound or intense or philosophical or anything. Or maybe I was, but I didn't think it would be taken that way. And then it was. It was re-tweeted over and over and I was a bit stunned.
Little did anyone who read that tweet know that I said it because of Rachael Ray.
It's not that I dislike her, I obviously don't know her personally, but I was disliking watching her that day. I was home alone, eating lunch, and I turned the TV on and there she was, constantly sticking her tongue out of the side of her mouth while interviewing someone I wanted to learn more about. I almost started counting the number of times that little tongue flicked out. It was distracting, at least to an overly observant person like me, so I put on my judgy hat and fumed, stop sticking your tongue out, while eating my salad followed by a dilly bar.
Then a thought struck me, one that I needed. Her seemingly constant licking of her lips was annoying me, yes, but I wondered how annoying it is to watch ME pick at my lip. Yes, I pick at the skin on my lip. So much so, that I do it without thinking, like nail biting or lip chewing. I'd probably even do it on TV (if I happened to have my own show because of being an excellent cook or something that I'm not).
So I shook my head at me and continued to watch the interview.
Thinking about myself and what I do that's annoying instantly made me like Rachael Ray more. An immediate acceptance of her lip-licking ways hit me and I had to think about all the bigger things I naturally judge before looking at me. How I do the exact same thing that's bothering me in one way or another. About how damaging that is and how it sucks the life out of relationships.
I shut off the TV and started vacuuming and thinking of things that have bothered me or even hurt me, things I have blamed or judged people for, big or small. I realized that pretty much everything dulls in comparison with what I do in the same or a slightly different way. Self-righteousness is such an ugly thing. I've known that, but it's good to know it more.
I love that a shift in thinking, a change of heart, can occur in and because of the most simple and mundane things. Like daytime television and vacuuming. Even those things. We just have to be open to them. The strange and beautiful lessons are there, every day.
So there you have it. My "profound" tweet had people saying AMEN! and WHOA! and it was triggered by Rachael Ray's tongue.
You just never know.